My love for the game of football has influenced the way I think as a leader.
Although the colors of flags vary from league to league and have changed over the years, every modern day NFL fan will recognize the yellow and red flag.
Yellow flags are thrown by the officials to indicate a penalty. Red flags are thrown by a head coach in order to challenge a play call.
A keen observer will note that penalties occur on nearly every down. The officials must be judicious. The essence of the game would be lost if penalty flags were thrown too frequently. The fans would complain. There would be no entertainment value. The players would lose motivation. The game would not sustain itself as a business. The stands would be empty, the TV turned off.
Officials are required to use their best judgment. They must allow some leeway to let the players play. They must preserve the integrity of the game without overshadowing the fun of the game. They must determine where the line is drawn between competition and outright violation of the rule book.
While yellow flags may be unlimited, red flags are just the opposite. Red flags can change the outcome of the game. There are several rules surrounding the red flag (which I will not cover). In general, coaches are allowed only two per game and at the cost of a timeout for any unsuccessful challenge.
Before a red challenge flag is thrown coaches must trust their own instinct, the word of the players, and/or receive guidance from assistant coaches with access to a live television feed.
If we apply this to leadership (including parenthood), what can we learn?
Are you the type of leader that mercilessly penalizes every member of your team with no room for error or forgiveness? Do you put team members on report? Do you bench them? Do you outright fire them? Is your production compromised because you are too busy throwing yellow flags?
Do you view yourself as a coach or a referee? Do you penalize at the expense of your player when a little coaching would have done the trick?
How often do you throw the challenge flag? Do you challenge your player’s integrity and intentions? Perhaps your challenge is positive in nature, like always helping them strive to reach their highest level of performance. Do you challenge bad play calls made against your team members?
Before throwing a flag, consider how it is going to affect the REAL game. The one on the field…the one we call life!